My marriage took a hit recently.⠀
When I recently went through that mental funk, I lost my mojo, and I wasn’t myself.⠀
It was impacting the confidence I have in myself and thus, it was impacting our relationship.⠀
I had to sit Matt down and flat out ask him
- What’s going through your head?
- Are you worried about us?
- Are you concerned this is the ‘new me’?”
He was supporting me, but all of my insecurities were surfacing during this time, and I questioned him.⠀
I questioned us.⠀
In our almost 10 years together, we’ve gone through relationship adjustments like moving multiple times, family sicknesses, death, financial ups and downs, introducing a child, and the physical changes of taking out my implants and all the physical and emotional stuff around that.⠀
Through all of this, I have maintained confidence in myself, and in our relationship.⠀
But that funk really broke me down, and things were crossing my mind like: ⠀
– I am Nelly Negative, and not fun for Matt to be around⠀
– I am the least horny I’ve ever been, he’s likely disappointed⠀
– I am not in the mood to go out, I must be so boring to him ⠀
– I’m getting so snippy and becoming ‘that wife’ that bickers, not cool⠀
– If he’s around positive women he’s likely more attracted to them than me right now⠀
As I started to finally feel like myself again, I realized that my mental health is an integral and very important part of our sexual relationship.⠀
Not my tits. Not my aging lines. Not my body.⠀
As soon as I got my mojo back, our intimacy, connection, and ability to have a healthy & sexually fulfilling marriage came flooding back.⠀
We’re on a peak again, and I’m happy to say that my physical appearance had ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with it.⠀
There’s nothing wrong with feeling attractive, but it was a nice reminder that most of my sex drive and his attraction to me comes from the person I AM – not what I look like.
How much importance do you put on your looks when it comes to your sex life?
Do you think your spouse cares about that a lot?
Would you consider your ‘marriage mojo’ is primarily from what you bring to the table as a woman & the way you make them feel, or do you place your sexuality & confidence on your looks??
I’d love to hear from you guys below.
In an effort to keeping it real so we can connect, reflect & respect…