My marriage took a hit recently.⠀
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When I recently went through that mental funk, I lost my mojo, and I wasn’t myself.⠀
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It was impacting the confidence I have in myself and thus, it was impacting our relationship.⠀
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I had to sit Matt down and flat out ask him
- What’s going through your head?
- Are you worried about us?
- Are you concerned this is the ‘new me’?”
He was supporting me, but all of my insecurities were surfacing during this time, and I questioned him.⠀
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I questioned us.⠀
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In our almost 10 years together, we’ve gone through relationship adjustments like moving multiple times, family sicknesses, death, financial ups and downs, introducing a child, and the physical changes of taking out my implants and all the physical and emotional stuff around that.⠀
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Through all of this, I have maintained confidence in myself, and in our relationship.⠀
But that funk really broke me down, and things were crossing my mind like: ⠀
– I am Nelly Negative, and not fun for Matt to be around⠀
– I am the least horny I’ve ever been, he’s likely disappointed⠀
– I am not in the mood to go out, I must be so boring to him ⠀
– I’m getting so snippy and becoming ‘that wife’ that bickers, not cool⠀
– If he’s around positive women he’s likely more attracted to them than me right now⠀
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As I started to finally feel like myself again, I realized that my mental health is an integral and very important part of our sexual relationship.⠀
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Not my tits. Not my aging lines. Not my body.⠀
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As soon as I got my mojo back, our intimacy, connection, and ability to have a healthy & sexually fulfilling marriage came flooding back.⠀
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We’re on a peak again, and I’m happy to say that my physical appearance had ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with it.⠀
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There’s nothing wrong with feeling attractive, but it was a nice reminder that most of my sex drive and his attraction to me comes from the person I AM – not what I look like.
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Even when we age and look like the older couple here, I am still going to be that woman he married….Just a more evolved version of her.⠀
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And I’m proud of that.
How much importance do you put on your looks when it comes to your sex life?
Do you think your spouse cares about that a lot?
Would you consider your ‘marriage mojo’ is primarily from what you bring to the table as a woman & the way you make them feel, or do you place your sexuality & confidence on your looks??
I’d love to hear from you guys below.
In an effort to keeping it real so we can connect, reflect & respect…
Yours truly,
Ashley xo
