If you take a look around, you’ll notice people typically choose to spend their time with like-minded people. This was either a conscious decision they made, or something that happened organically because of their innate needs to be around someone that mimics them. Sometimes, you may even see a change in a friend’s personality as a result of them hanging around a particular person or group. My point – your personality, your lifestyle, and often your morals, are influenced and formed by those around you. Choose wisely, because motivation is contagious.
We’re wired to mimic those around us, and that means if you need a helpful kick in the butt, it may be wise to call that person in your life you’d be happy to emulate. Whether you admire their tenacity to speak their mind, energy to workout, dedication to being a good Mom, creativity with healthy eating, or their ‘fun gene’ when they’re out for a ladies night, your lifestyle and personality can be healthfully influenced by their presence. Don’t be shy to ask for help, tell them you admire them, or see if they’d like to join you for a coffee every week. I’m not sure anyone would ever been offended by such an expression, because usually this is quite an honour to a friend, co-worker, or family member.
Trying to make changes in your life is hard, and you don’t need to rely on your own motivation and willpower to make things happen. If you’re feeling like your motivation needs a booster juice, then change something in your external environment to make it happen, and spend some time with those that you admire. Sitting on your butt and watching the ‘Biggest Loser’ is not going to produce the same results as calling a friend that is dedicated to fitness, just like reading “Fifty Shades of Grey” is not going to give you a sizzling sex life. You need to immerse yourself into crowds that inspire you, and surround yourself with family and friends that bring out the best in you.
Lastly, and just as important, don’t involve yourself with toxic people that bring lots of negativity into your life, and drain your energy. We’ve all heard of how a toxic person can ruin a work environment for everyone around them, and this relates to your family and friends as well. Be mindful of the people you choose to spend your time with, because you don’t want to be a victim of their negativity. Our innate drive to mimic those around us doesn’t stop when it comes to a toxic person, so this could be the very thing keeping you from reaching all of goals, and depleting your personal motivation. Motivation is contagious, right?!
This leads me to ask – who are you hanging around and spending your time with?
Showing you the real girls approach to a badass body,
Ashley Dale Grant
